The Balance Sheet in our Minds

Last week, I reached a point in dealing with one of my kids that most parents hope to never reach, but often do...Asking one of them to do something I needed them to do, and getting resistance, I heard myself say to them, "Do you know how much I do for you!"

What this statement revealed to me (and to them) was that inside my head, there was a balance sheet with a running tally on what I do for others and what they do for me.  In this case, I was looking at the ledger and seeing a huge imbalance, such that I felt I was owed something. And I was using that "imbalance" to get what I wanted....Yuck!

On its face, this statement is the very definition of conditional love... I love with the condition that it will be reciprocated in some way.

Aren't you glad that God does not at this way towards us? Aren't you glad that his love is never conditioned on our performance? It stands true, consistent, & unwavering towards us no matter how we act. 

In my life, I hope to learn to love more like God loves (this is costly, I know,  but so much truer and more beautiful)!

Grace & Peace,
Brad Swope

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